Signs That Your Ex Boyfriend Wants You Back
While trying to repair a relationship with your ex, it goes without saying that you should be looking for signs he wants you back. Try to put aside wishful thinking, and don't take any one of these indicators as a definitive sign your exboyfriend is ready to get back with you. Still, you should keep them in mind: these behaviors are all good indicators that you've correctly followed the steps in the complete guide to getting your ex back.
He Stays in Contact With You
One of the first signs you'll get that he's still interested will be an ex still keeping in touch with you. In today's day and age, this could come in the form of not only phone calls, but also emails, text messages, and other ways too. Any ex boyfriend who's consistently calling to say hi or see how you're doing is trying to keep that door open, even slightly, to the possibility that the two of you could one day get back together.
If he's trying to meet up with you for coffee, lunch, or other innocent ways to make small talk, that's an even bigger sign that he's interested. This shouldn't happen immediately after the breakup, especially since you should be using that time to drop off his radar. But later on, if he initiates contact with you on such a close and face-to-face basis, it's a very good sign your ex hasn't yet moved on.
When your boyfriend breaks up with you and gets a new girlfriend, chances are he's going to break all communication with you - at least for a while. He does this to protect his new love interest, and he'll especially do it if he thinks you still have feelings for him. Taking this into consideration, it stands to reason that an ex who keeps the lines of communication open hasn't yet found what he's looking for in another woman. This is great news for you, as it could speed up the process of winning back your boyfriend. Staying in contact with an ex can be both good and bad, but if he's the one initiating the contact it's almost always a good sign.
He Starts Talking About Your Past Relationship
An ex who keeps talking about your past history together hasn't fully let go of your relationship. Even though he may have broken up with you, he's still tossing the idea of you and him being together around in his head. He's unsure of himself, maybe even unsure about the break up, and he wants to know if he made the right (or the wrong) decision. And as he bounces this stuff off of you, what he's really doing is looking for your reaction: trying to gauge if you're going to agree with him that the past was not all that bad.
Maybe he'll bring up stories of past events, places, and things you did together. He might even claim to have gone to one of the places recently, using this as an excuse to bring it up. What he's doing here is trying to convince himself of all the good times. Once two people are broken up, it's easy to put the bad stuff behind and concentrate on all the things that made the both of you happy.
If your ex boyfriend does this, it's a great opportunity for you. The road to repairing your relationship always ends with the same ultimate goal: making him want you back. Here he's already handing you the tools, all you need to do is help him build some fond memories of the great times you had together. Laugh, nod, agree, and encourage him here. Excessively talking about the past is always a good sign that your ex wants to get back together with you.
Your Ex Boyfriend is Suddenly Open About His Current Life
This is a pretty big sign. Right after your relationship ends, your ex might find it very difficult for him to openly talk about his new life without you. But if you've accepted your breakup and given him signs that you yourself have moved on, he'll be ten times more likely to open himself up about these things. He's doing this for a couple of reasons, but the biggest is that he wants reassurance. He wants to know that what he's done the right thing, and he wants to know that you're still "there" for him in case he wants to change his mind. Men always like to leave the door open - you should remember this fact, because you can use it to your advantage in making him want you back.
If your ex is now with someone else and he still opens up to you, that's an even bigger sign. He's trusting you enough to keep your communication just between the two of you, because if his current girlfriend found out she's be monumentally pissed. You can establish a neutral trust with him here, which is a huge step toward winning him back from this other girl. You have to move a little more carefully in this type of situation though. Getting your boyfriend back when he's already dating someone else is a little tricky, but there are several ways to do it.
He Begins Showing Signs of Affection
While this may be a great sign he's interested in you again, you also want him interested for all the right reasons. Signs of physical affection are easy for a man, especially if you have a long history together. No matter how you broke up or whether or not he's ready to get back together, your ex might miss the physical closeness of holding, kissing, and loving you. And yes, he misses sleeping with you too.
More important to you should be signs of emotional affection and attachment. These should come in the form of not just words, but of feelings too. You'll know when your ex is trying to reconnect with you emotionally... just as you'll know when he just wants a physical hook up. The difference is big, and you'll need to be honest with yourself when gauging the situation. You don't want to do anything you'll regret doing, but at the same time you do love this man and want him back in your life.
The best advice here is to take stock of what he's saying and doing, and judge it honestly in your own mind. Push wishful thinking out of your head for a minute and forget about trying to get back with your him. Is your ex trying to get back with you? Is he looking to rebuild a new long-term relationship? Or is he just sweet-talking you into bed with him that night? Understanding what's happening is key to determining whether this is a make up or a hook up. Be ready for both.
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