Getting Back Your Ex Boyfriend When He's Already Dating
Turning Your Friendship Back Into a Romance
Seeing your ex boyfriend on a friendly basis is all well and good, but your ultimate goal is to make him want you back. To do this, you'll need to reestablish the level of intimacy you had when you were once dating. This shouldn't be hard to accomplish, if you've followed all the steps up until now.
Meeting with you should be something fun and safe for him, or he's not going to do it. Let him call the shots, pick the places, and do it on his terms. His going to be hiding his relationship with you from his current girlfriend, so be respectful of that. Don't get offended or consider yourself a dirty little secret, this is just another step on the path toward winning your ex boyfriend back.
Friendship between the two of you can only take you so far, and eventually one of you will need to make a move. Use your body language to let him know the door is open for him. Getting close when you can, grazing him with a fingertip, touching his arm during a conversation - these are all good ideas that should get his attention. And when that first kiss does come, make sparks fly.
Moving Back Into a Girlfriend-Type Role
When the physical portion of your reconcilation begins, things can get tricky fast. You've just kissed him again, and in your mind you're ready for a full-blown reunion. But in his mind, he might still be confused. There's a decent chance he's not ready to abandon his current girlfriend yet, and you'll need to prepare yourself for that.
Try very hard not to be jealous here. Pushing your ex too hard at this point could shove him right back into his girlfriend's arms, and you don't want that. Let him know, in no uncertain terms, that you're sorry for the way things turned out between you. Don't apologize for anything you did, or ask him for an apology in return. Just tell him that you miss him, and that you'd rather the two of you would've stayed together. Then shut up, and watch his response very carefully.
If your ex responds by telling you the same things, it's a really good sign. He might be ready for and looking forward to giving your relationship another chance. If this is the case, give him a little breathing room to settle things with the girl he's currently dating. If he's a man of character (and if you want him back, he should be) he'll be looking for a respectful way to end his existing relationship. Let him.
The other possibility is that your ex balks at the thought of fully getting back together. After all, he's in a pretty comfortable situation right now, and you're asking him to take the risk of giving something up. If he backpedals here, you've got to do some damage control of your own. This involves taking a small step back yourself, and maybe not seeing him as much. By getting back on with your own life, you're wordlessly forcing him to make a decision. He realizes you want to rebuild your relationship, but he's also scared you're not going to wait around forever. If he loves you, he'll let her go.
Sleeping With Your Ex To Get Him Back
Getting intimate with someone again, even something as simple as kissing, will often yield big emotional results. Many people who get back together after a breakup do so because they fall back into bed with one another... even if they're already seeing someone else. Sleeping with an ex is both comforting and comfortable - you're familiar with each other's minds and bodies. Plus, you've done it dozens of times before anyway, so what's one more roll in the sack?
If you choose to sleep with your ex boyfriend while he's dating someone else, be very careful with your own emotions. While it may seem wonderful at the time, watching him leave you the next morning to go have breakfast with his girlfriend might not be all that appealing. Getting your boyfriend back from another woman is filled with pitfalls, and this is one of them. If you feel you can mentally handle sex with your ex, and you're sure you can be mature about it - go for it. Otherwise, be wary of it.
The one thing you definitely must do is recognize the situation for what it is - an affair. Is it an affair that could lead you back together again? Maybe. But it could also be nothing more than sex between ex-lovers, where one person is hoping for more than the other. That type of situation always leads to someone getting hurt, so really try to feel your boyfriend out before taking this step. If you feel assured that getting back together is imminent, sleeping together might actually help cement the bond between you. But until he breaks up with his current girlfriend, it's all still cheating.
Laying The Foundation For Your New Relationship
When the smoke clears, you and your ex boyfriend are going to be left with a second chance at building a long term relationship. Wait until his (new!) ex is out of the picture before you begin this process. If you haven't read the full guide at left yet, pay special attention to Part 7: building a new foundation together. This concentrates on how to let go of the past in order to move forward happily with your now boyfriend.
No matter what you do, don't hold his past relationship with this other girl against him. Holding grudges and showing resentment could just as easily drive him away, or worse yet, back to her. You should focus on new beginnings and new adventures together. Let him know how happy you are that you're giving your romance another shot, and then work on building all new memories by planning some really great times together.
What To Do If You're Still Stuck - Other Great Resources
If the process of winning back your boyfriend gets stalled on any one of these steps, don't panic! There are lots of other really great tips and tricks you can use to win back your ex, and many of them haven't even been mentioned in this guide. The best ones can be found below, and you can begin reading them in minutes:
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